“Oh My God! Get away from me, you CREEP! This is the THIRD time you’ve said that to me!”
This is what a STUNNING blonde had just yelled in my face after I tried to start a convo with her.
I could have thought: “Damn! What a bitch! Why does she gotta be so rude?” But instead I thought, “What did I do to make her respond that way?” This lead to much different results.
You see, this was ten years ago and I had just started learning how to improve my skills with women, so I relied on a lot of “canned material” to start and keep convos going with women I was interested in.
I had one “opener” I used to start conversations time and time again and it hadn’t yet dawned on me that there might be downsides to this… like unknowingly starting them with the same women in the EXACT SAME robotic way every time. Talk about seeming inauthentic.
On top of that, I found that when I was successful and called women I had met using these canned lines, I rarely knew what to say or how to have a natural conversation with them. Our convos usually seemed weird and awkward and we would almost never end up meeting. This really hurt my confidence but I learned how to view it constructively.
I also realized I wasn’t going to be able to date the type of women I REALLY wanted by being phony like this… which was why I had gotten into “game” in the first place – to date amazing women like blondie – not to sleep with as many as I could. So, I stopped.
I had to change my mindset and approach to something more productive and today I’m going to show you how to as well.
NEW MINDSET: WOMEN WHO DON’T TALK TO YOU ARE NOT BITCHES!
Don’t be butthurt, bro!
That’s something insecure, dejected men often say about women who they didn’t get the results they wanted with.
They’re Just Protecting Themselves
Every day, everywhere they go, women are confronted with men wanting something from them: their bodies. Since they were likely 14 years old, guys have been trying all sorts of lies, manipulations, and clever tricks to get her to give it to them (after all, that’s what some guys think they need to do to get laid).
So, it’s no surprise that’s she’s often skeptical, dismissive, or even flat out rude to avoid having to take the time and brain power to find out if you’re trying to trick her. You can’t really blame her for that.
They’re Testing To See Your True Character
Since guys are constantly trying to falsely impress or lie to her, so that she will think they’re a good choice and sleep with them, how is she supposed to know which guy to believe?
Simple: she forces you to prove your personal characteristics so that all the actors and fakes fall by the wayside.
This way, she finds out if you’re actually the awesome kind of man that she’s hoping you are!
It’s not like they do it for fun!
So, How Can You Use This To Your Advantage?!
If you can’t use being social so SHE wants to meet YOU, you need to find other ways to show her you’re a man of amazing character, unlike other guys! How?
1. Show Persistence -> Stay In The Convo Until She Leaves Or Tells You To
Stay talking to her, even if she isn’t very responsive. She can leave or tell you to ‘fuck off’ at any time. Remember: “If She’s Staying; She’s Playing” – meaning that if she isn’t leaving or telling you to leave then she’s giving you a chance, regardless of how it seems.
This shows your persistence to work through difficult situations in life and sets you apart from the many guys who won’t persist through the awkwardness to create a relationship with her.
2. Show Empathy -> Point Out Or Make A Joke About The Awkwardness
Cut through the awkwardness and tension by pointing it out or making a joke about it. Often times, women will appreciate that you have the empathy to recognize and appreciate how they feel and you will get bonus points if you can turn it into something funny.
Do you?! DO YOU?!
This sets you apart from other guys who may not be aware of or ignore other people’s feeling when they commit a social faux pas.
3. Show Problem Solving Skills -> Make The Interaction Fun and Playful
Obviously, if she’s having fun and laughing it’s going to be hard for her to not be friendly to you! Find ways to tease, joke, and have childish fun with her that breaks through the tough exterior, tension, and awkwardness between you.
This shows that despite even tough circumstances, you can find ways to creatively solve problems and get what you want in life. This sets you aside from the guys who just don’t find a way to get the job done.
4. Show Determination -> Re-Approach Her Up To Four Times
“If at first you don’t succeed – try, try, try again!” That’s a truth I learned as a kid. It even says four times in there. Not getting deterred by rejection or setback is an important life skill regardless of what you’re working at.
And so can you!
Just seeing or talking to someone more is psychologically proven to increase their likeness towards you based on something called “The Mere Exposure Effect”. Think of neighbours, co-workers, or people you see at places you frequent that you may not be friends with otherwise. The more familiarity people have with each other the more they come to like each other!
This sets you apart from other guys because they often get butt hurt and give up WAY more easily than that. Plus, it shows her that you’re GENUINELY interested, otherwise why would you work so hard?
5. Show Depth -> Let Her Know She Can Earn You With Her Personality
Guys like attractiveness but we LOVE that mixed with personality. We’d usually rather date an attractive woman with a great personality than a smoking hot one whose personality sucks. Women also want to be loved for their personality along with being desired for their appearance.
You’ll both appreciate each other more for it!
Show her you understand both of these things and that SHE can earn YOU by having a great personality. For example:
- “If you’re as cool as you are *compliment*, then I think we’ll really get along!”
- “Are you cool and fun? Ok, then I guess we can *do activity* together.”
- “If we keep getting along so well then, maybe, in the future we can * do activity* together.”
This sets you apart from other guys by showing her you actually care about her personality and that you have standards that she can live up to be able to EARN YOU.
Conclusion:
So, the next time you approach a woman who is a “cold bitch” (as the most attractive women often are to test you) remember to use these five tips to show her you’re a man of better character than others and watch as she slowly melts into the warm sweetheart that she likely is underneath. If you want another easy way to stop getting nervous, rejected, and friend-zoned with hot women then you can try this free convo skills w/ hot women boosting audio.
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